Marriage Preparation Course Helps you Prepare to Succeed
There are two major commitments we make in our lives. The first one is to the person we marry and the second is to any children we may have. Let’s look at the first one in this blog.
When we ask someone to share our lives it should not be on some idle whim. We are making a solemn promise to that other person to love and respect them for the rest of their lives. We hope, and believe, they will do the same for us. But like everything to ensure the best possible chance of success we need to prepare well. Most people think that the engagement period will suffice, and for some it does. But for most it does not.
In Relationships Ireland it is our mission to provide assistance to all couples in committed relationships. To help in this endeavour we provide a Pre-marriage Course. It is a three hour private course with just the couple and an experienced and qualified couple counsellor. Our Marriage Preparation course also caters for same sex couples, as do all our services and have done for many, many years. We were delighted with the recent referendum verdict as now all relationships are seen as equal.
The couple would have already filled in an extensive questionnaire to help elicit their views on a range of subjects. We ask that the couple fill in the questionnaires separately. I have conducted many of these courses. I can honestly say that everyone (including me) enjoys the experience. What is most gratifying is that the couple find out even more about each other. They also learn such a lot about both physical and emotional intimacy and how to stay close. It’s not about us telling you how to be married but to offer hints and tips, and warn about some of the pitfalls along the way. Forewarned is forearmed! We have, after all, decades of experience in this area.
We think of a pre marriage course like a pre flight check all pilots do before takeoff. We pay a lot of money to wedding planners and caterers for the wedding day. The investment people make in doing our pre marriage course will be useful for many years to come. We concentrate on those issues that you may have been reluctant to face or have answered previously in your relationship, such as; do you both want to have children? How many? How will you make time for each other when you both have such busy schedules? They might seem like questions that are basic and straightforward, but over the years we have seen both partners answer differently. It helps set things straight and can also be an enjoyable experience. Just last week we received a lovely card from a couple on their wedding anniversary thanking us for helping them be so happy. I can tell you it makes all the work we do in Relationships Ireland worthwhile when we get feedback like that!
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