Waiting for something to happen
We wait and we wait, and still nothing happens! He doesn’t say sorry, and she doesn’t reach out a hand in friendship. I ask you, and yes, challenge you, who will do something to break the atmosphere if not you. ’Why should I’? you say. Sounds a bit like the school playground! We don’t feel better behaving in this way, in fact it makes us feel depressed and physically unwell. But still we persist doing the very things that don’t help and make things worse.
Too often clients attend counselling expecting the counsellor to do ‘the magic’ – to make something happen. Little do they know they possess ‘the magic’. They have that unique ability to change not just themselves, but the lives of others as well.
We wait to be happy, not knowing that with the smallest change we will realise that the happiness we seek was there all the time . We feel uplifted when we help our loved ones feel a little less lonely. We feel more ‘whole’ when we see again that glint in our loved one’s eye. I, of course, do understand that it isn’t always that easy, close relationships never are. But we can try to make them less difficult with a smile and a commitment to work some ‘magic’ of our own – NOW!