Time to Take Our Heads Out of the Sand

With all the ‘stuff’ that has been going on and is still going on, it’s tempting to bury our heads in the sand in the hope that things will work out by themselves. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? We all do it now and again. This is particularly so when we’re going through really tough times. Our physical and emotional strength is sapped when we’re under intense stress and all we want to do is ‘hide away’ and bury our head in the sand. We at Relationships Ireland understand this stress and pressure and its impact on individuals and couples.

Our way of helping can be described as ‘Talking Therapy’. I sometimes think it should be called ‘Listening Therapy’. Talking/listening does ‘clear our head’. Some people imagine that their issues are too trivial to attend. Nothing could be further from the truth. Most of the ‘issues’ most of us have could be called ‘trivial’. The problem is they’re not trivial. Most of our problems/issues are recurring ones and that is one of the reasons why we bury our heads in the sand.

A lot of the time people believe that there’s no solution. Maybe there isn’t a solution, but there are different ways of viewing the issue. What we can do is try to get an unbiased and fresh perspective on the issue(s). The good thing about Relationships Ireland is that we have no agenda. We are a non denominational organisation and we are a not for profit organisation. Our counsellors are real people, people living in the real world. Most of us have had, and continue to have, many ups and downs so we understand what pressure is like.

Burying our head in the sand has never worked and will not work now. There’s a saying, ‘When the going gets tough the tough gets going’. This is a time to get tough, speak out and share what we as individuals or couples are going through. Our lives have value. We are important. We have a contribution to make. When we are under constant stress and pressure we can lose sight of the bigger picture. We compare ourselves to others and berate ourselves at our ‘failures’.

Too often we look back saying; ‘If only…..’ Moving from negativity to a more positive outlook doesn’t happen overnight and can be challenging, but ultimately rewarding. That is why we are here - So take your head out of the sand!